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Abstract
The book describes in detail and intelligibly the unique technique of Alexander Sviyash, which helps to change the attitude towards negative events and permanently eliminate them from life, get rid of many diseases and solve the most confusing problems. family problems. Simple and accessible recommendations of the author and proposed by him psychological exercises have already helped millions of people overcome troubles, restore the joy of life, find happiness and prosperity.
Introduction
What is this book about? It is about how we all live in a world of abundance. Our world has a lot of food, money, housing, cars, men and women, children, health, love, sex, fame, places to stay and everything else. The Creator created everything in abundance.
But then why does it happen that some people have something in abundance, while others do not have enough of it? And even if you have something in abundance, for example, money, then at the same time you may not have enough love or health. Or there is an abundance of love or health, but not enough money, and so on. And only rare people have everything they need, but there are very few of them. People call them lucky or lucky. In general, they believe that their happiness and success does not depend on them, but they are just lucky. Yes, and they themselves sometimes think so, not even suspecting that they created their happiness and luck for themselves.
Can anyone be one of those lucky ones? Is there anything he can do to make sure everything is the way he wants it to be? Maybe if he behaves like successful people.
Everything depends on you!
The idea that in order to be successful you have to behave like successful people do is not new. It is discussed and described in detail in many books. I won't do it again because the authors of the recommendations described the outside of the command successful people - how they work, how they plan their activities, how they talk, and so on. To some extent, these recommendations work - but only to the extent that the inner world of the reader coincides with inner world and the belief system of a successful person. And here, as you know, there can be a huge gap. You can endlessly identify your goals, plan your achievements, work 18 hours a day. But at the same time, if deep down you consider your boss to be an idiot who does not occupy his place, then the results of your efforts will be zero or even negative, that is, you will be demoted or even fired.
Or you decorate yourself and develop communication skills to attract the attention of men and arrange your personal life. And they, as luck would have it, completely disappear from your horizon.
Why, because outwardly you did everything that a successful person should do, and suddenly such a defeat?
The Reminders You Need Most When Things Go Wrong
The best way out is always through.
~ Robert Frost
“I am sitting in my hospital bed waiting for both breasts to be removed. But in a strange way, I feel lucky. So far I have had no health problems. I am a 69-year-old woman ... In a few hours, I saw several dozen cancer patients in wheelchairs and on wheelchairs. And none of them were over 17…”.
This is an excerpt from my grandmother's diary dated September 16, 1977. I copied it about ten years ago. He will remind me that there is always something to be grateful for. And no matter how good or bad I feel, I have to wake up every day and give thanks for life, because someone somewhere is desperately fighting for it.
The truth is that happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them. Imagine all the amazing things that your mind could take over if it weren't so tightly occupied with your struggle. Always look at what you have instead of what you have lost.
Here are some reminders to motivate you when you need it the most:
1. Pain is part of growth.
Sometimes life closes doors because it's time to move. And this is good, because we often do not start moving unless circumstances force us to. When times get tough, remind yourself that no pain comes without a purpose. Move on from what hurts you, but never forget the lesson she teaches you. Just because you're struggling doesn't mean you're failing. Every great success requires a worthy struggle to be present. Good things take time. Stay patient and confident. Everything will be alright; probably not in a moment, but in the end everything will be ...
Remember that there are two kinds of pain: pain that hurts and pain that changes you. As you go through life, instead of resisting it, let it help you grow.
2. Everything in life is temporary.
Whenever it rains you know it will end. Every time you get hurt, the wound heals. After darkness there is always light - you are reminded of this every morning, but nevertheless you often forget and believe that the night will last forever. It will not happen. Nothing lasts forever.
So, if everything is good right now, enjoy it. It won't last forever. If it's bad, don't worry, because it won't last forever either. That life is not easy in this moment doesn't mean you can't laugh. Just because something bothers you doesn't mean you can't smile. Every moment gives you a new beginning and a new ending. Every second you get a second chance. You are given a chance, and you just have to use it.
3. Worrying and complaining won't change anything.
Those who complain the most achieve the least. It is always better to try to do something big and fail than to try to do nothing and succeed. Nothing is over if you have lost; it's all over, if you're really only complaining. If you believe in something, keep trying. Don't let the shadows of the past obscure your future. Today's lamentations about yesterday won't make tomorrow brighter. Let what you know improve the way you live. Make a change and never look back.
And no matter what happens in the end, remember that true happiness only begins to come when you stop complaining about your problems and start being grateful for all the problems you don't have.
4. Your scars are symbols of your power.
Never be ashamed of the scars life has left you. A scar means that there is no more pain and the wound has healed. This means that you have conquered the pain, learned the lesson, become stronger and have moved on. The scar is a tattoo of triumph. Don't let your scars hold you hostage. Don't let them make you live in fear. You cannot make scars disappear, but you can change the way you see them. You may begin to view your scars as a sign of strength.
Ryumi once said, "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." Nothing can be closer to the truth. Out of suffering came the strongest souls; the most influential people in this big world marked with scars. Look at your scars as a slogan: “YES! I DID IT! I survived and I have scars to prove it! And now I have a chance to become even stronger.”
5. Every little struggle is a step forward.
In life patience is not in waiting; it is in the ability to keep a good mood, working hard for your dreams, in the knowledge that the work is worth it. So if you're going to try it, go all the way. Otherwise, there is no point in starting. This may mean a loss of stability and comfort for a while, and perhaps even your mind. This may mean not eating what you are used to, or not sleeping as much as you are used to for many weeks on end. This may mean changing your comfort zone. It can mean sacrificing relationships and everything you know. This may mean the appearance of ridicule. This may mean the appearance of time that you will spend alone. Loneliness, however, is the gift that makes many things possible. This gives you the space you need. Everything else is a test for your endurance, for how much you really want to achieve the goal.
And if you want it, you will do it in spite of failures and disagreements. And every step you take will feel better than you can imagine. You will understand that the struggle is not an obstacle on the way, it is the way. And he's worth it. So if you're going to try it, go all the way. There is no better feeling in the world… there is no better feeling than knowing what it means to be ALIVE.
6. Other people's negativity is not your problem.
Be confident when bad things surround you. Smile when others try to beat you. It - easy way support your own enthusiasm. When other people talk bad about you, keep being yourself. Never let anyone's talk change the person you are. You can't take everything too personally, even if it seems personal. Don't think that people are doing things because of you. They do things for themselves.
First of all, never change in order to impress someone who says you're not good enough. Change if it makes you better and leads you to a brighter future. People will talk no matter what you do or how well you do it. Worry about yourself before you worry about what others think. If you believe in something, don't be afraid to fight for it. Great strength comes from overcoming the impossible.
All jokes aside, your life is only one. So do what makes you happy and be with someone who makes you smile.
7. What is meant to be will eventually WILL be.
True strength comes when you, instead of screaming and complaining, choose to smile and appreciate your life. There are blessings hidden in every struggle you face, but you must be willing to open your heart and mind to see them. You cannot make things happen. You can only try. At some point you have to let go and let what is meant to happen happen.
Love your life, trust your intuition, take risks, lose and find happiness, learn through experience. It - long trip. You must stop worrying, wondering and doubting at any moment. Laugh, live in every moment of life and enjoy your life. You may not know exactly where you intended to go, but you will eventually arrive where you need to be.
8. The best thing you can do is keep moving.
Don't be afraid to get angry. Don't be afraid to love again. Don't let the cracks in your heart turn into scars. Realize that strength is increasing every day. Understand that courage is beautiful. Find in your heart what makes others smile. Remember that you don't need many people in your life, so don't strive to have more "friends". Be strong when the going gets tough. Remember that the universe always does what is right. Admit when you are wrong and learn from it. Always look back and see what you have achieved and be proud of yourself. Don't change for anyone if you don't want to. Do more. Write stories. Take photos. Be mindful of the moments and ways your loved ones look at you.
Just keep being YOU.
Keep growing. Keep moving.
Always look at what you have instead of what you have lost. And no matter how good or bad you feel, you should wake up every day and give thanks for life, because someone somewhere is desperately fighting for it.
1. Pain is part of growth.
Sometimes life closes doors because it's time to move. And that's good, because we often don't start moving unless circumstances force us to. When times get tough, remind yourself that no pain comes without a purpose.
Move on from what hurts you, but never forget the lesson she teaches you.
Just because you are struggling doesn't mean you are failing. Every great success requires a worthy struggle to be present. Good things take time. Stay patient and confident. Everything will be alright; probably not in a moment, but in the end everything will be ... Remember - there are two types of pain: pain that hurts, and pain that changes you. As you go through life, instead of resisting it, help it develop you.
2. Everything in life is temporary.
Whenever it rains, you know it will end. Every time you get hurt, the wound heals. After darkness there is always light - you are reminded of this every morning, but nevertheless, it often seems that the night will last forever. It will not happen.
Nothing lasts forever. So, if everything is good right now, enjoy it. It won't last forever. If it's bad, don't worry, because it won't last forever either.
Just because life isn't easy right now doesn't mean you can't laugh. Just because something bothers you doesn't mean you can't smile. Every moment gives you a new beginning and a new ending. Every second you get a second chance. Just use it.
3. Worrying and complaining won't change anything.
Those who complain the most achieve the least. It is always better to try to do something bigger and fail than to try to succeed without doing anything.
Nothing is over if you lose; it's over if you're really only complaining.
If you believe in something, keep trying. And no matter what happens in the end, remember that true happiness only begins to come when you stop complaining about your problems and start being grateful for all the problems you don't have.
4. Your scars are symbols of your power.
Never be ashamed of the scars life has left on you. A scar means that there is no more pain and the wound has healed. This means that you have conquered the pain, learned the lesson, become stronger and have progressed. The scar is a tattoo of triumph. Don't let scars hold you hostage. Don't let them make you live in fear. Start seeing them as a sign of strength. Jalaladdin Rumi once said:
"Through the wounds, light enters you." Nothing can be closer to the truth. Out of suffering came the strongest souls; the most powerful people in this big world are marked with scars. Look at your scars as a slogan: “YES! I DID IT! I survived and I have scars to prove it! And now I have a chance to become even stronger.”
5. Every little battle is a step forward
In life, patience is not the same as waiting; it is the ability to keep a good mood while working hard towards your dreams. So if you're going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, there is no point in starting. This may mean a loss of stability and comfort for a while, and perhaps even your mind. You may have to not eat what you are used to, or not sleep as much as you are used to, for weeks on end.
This may mean changing your comfort zone.
It can mean sacrificing relationships and everything you know.
This may mean the appearance of ridicule.
It could mean loneliness...
Loneliness, however, is the gift that makes many things possible. You will get the space you need. Everything else is a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to achieve your goal. And if you want it, you will do it in spite of setbacks and disagreements. And every step you take will feel better than you can imagine. You will understand that the struggle is not an obstacle on the way, it is the way.
6. Other people's negative reactions are not your problem.
Be confident when bad things surround you. Smile when others try to beat you. It's an easy way to keep up your own enthusiasm. When other people talk bad about you, keep being yourself. Never let anyone's talk change you. You can't take everything too personally, even if it seems personal. Don't think that people are doing things for you. They do things for themselves.
First of all, never change in order to impress someone who says you're not good enough. Change if it makes you better and leads you to a brighter future.
People will talk no matter what you do or how well you do it. Worry about yourself, not about the opinions of others. If you believe in something, don't be afraid to fight for it. Great strength comes from overcoming the impossible.
7. What should happen will happen
You gain strength when you stop screaming and complaining and start smiling and appreciating your life. There are blessings hidden in every struggle you face, but you must be willing to open your heart and mind to see them. You cannot make things happen. You can only try.
At a certain point, you have to let go of the situation and allow what is meant to happen.
Love your life, trust your intuition, take risks, lose and find happiness, learn through experience. It's a long ride. You must stop worrying, wondering and doubting at any moment. Laugh, enjoy every moment of your life. You may not know exactly where you intended to go, but you will eventually arrive where you need to be.
8. Just keep moving
Don't be afraid to get angry. Don't be afraid to love again. Don't let the cracks in your heart turn into scars. Realize that strength is increasing every day. Understand that courage is beautiful.
Find in your heart what makes others smile.
Remember that you don't need many people in your life, so don't strive to have more "friends". Be strong when the going gets tough. Remember that the universe always does what is right.
Admit when you are wrong and learn from it. Always look back, see what you have achieved and be proud of yourself. Don't change for anyone if you don't want to. Do more. Live easier. And never stop moving.
The book describes in detail and intelligibly the unique method of Alexander Sviyash, which helps to change the attitude towards negative events and permanently eliminate them from life, get rid of many diseases and solve the most intricate family problems. The author's simple and accessible recommendations and the psychological exercises he offers have already helped millions of people overcome troubles, restore the joy of life, find happiness and well-being.
Introduction
What is this book about? It is about how we all live in a world of abundance. Our world has a lot of food, money, housing, cars, men and women, children, health, love, sex, fame, places to stay and everything else. The Creator created everything in abundance.
But then why does it happen that some people have something in abundance, while others do not have enough of it? And even if you have something in abundance, for example, money, then at the same time you may not have enough love or health. Or there is an abundance of love or health, but not enough money, and so on. And only rare people have everything they need, but there are very few of them. People call them lucky or lucky. In general, they believe that their happiness and success does not depend on them, but they are just lucky. Yes, and they themselves sometimes think so, not even suspecting that they created their happiness and luck for themselves.
Can anyone be one of those lucky ones? Is there anything he can do to make sure everything is the way he wants it to be? Maybe if he behaves like successful people.
Everything depends on you!
The idea that in order to be successful you have to behave like successful people do is not new. It is discussed and described in detail in many books. I won't do it again because the authors of the recommendations described the outer side of the command of successful people- how they work, how they plan their activities, how they talk, and so on. To some extent, these recommendations work - but only to the extent that the inner world of the reader coincides with the inner world and belief system of a successful person. And here, as you know, there can be a huge gap. You can endlessly identify your goals, plan your achievements, work 18 hours a day. But at the same time, if deep down you consider your boss to be an idiot who does not occupy his place, then the results of your efforts will be zero or even negative, that is, you will be demoted or even fired.
Or you decorate yourself and develop communication skills to attract the attention of men and arrange your personal life. And they, as luck would have it, completely disappear from your horizon.
Why, because outwardly you did everything that a successful person should do, and suddenly such a defeat?
And the point here is that in addition to the external aspects of behavior, there are some very important internal rules that each person must follow in the process of interacting with other people. They are quite simple, but no one tells us about them. And if we violate them - and this is constantly done by millions of people, then Life will give us its lessons. She will teach us, and these lessons are not very pleasant - like a bad mark for an unfulfilled lesson at school. If we do not understand these lessons, then Life will block most of our efforts on the way to the desired goals. And then, no matter how energetic you are, no matter what efforts you make on the way to your goal, the desired result will be closed to you. You will not be the darling of Life, you will be a laggard, a loser.
And vice versa, if you understand her simple lessons, do not violate some of her requirements, then you will become her favorite. And being a favorite of Life is very nice, as you know. Most of your goals will be achieved as if by themselves. You will live in inner harmony, joy. Fear of the future will leave you - will Life allow something bad to be done to its pet?
I do not know exactly how this happens and who exactly helps a person who observes some simple rules living in our world. People call this invisible and caring patron God, Angels, Higher powers, or something else, to whom it is more familiar. Our methodology is non-religious, so we will simply use the concept of Life, and you can invest in it any interpretation that is convenient for you, corresponding to your belief system.
Since readers are usually interested in the personality of the author, I will tell you a little about myself. I was born in Russia in a simple family, went to school, worked, received two higher educations.
I didn't have huge failures and huge achievements in my life that you can read about in other books. That is, I did not bring my body to deadly disease to be cured later by heroic efforts. I was not in prison, I was not bankrupt, I was not on the verge of suicide, I was not persecuted by the KGB. Of course, I had difficulties at work, conflicts with management, sometimes reaching the point of being fired. I had great difficulty in family life which eventually led to a divorce, and now I have a second marriage. That is, I lived an ordinary life, which millions of people live.
The only thing that has always distinguished me is the increased inquisitiveness of the mind and always tried to understand: why is everything happening like this? And how can you create something new and useful? I studied a lot and I am studying now. All my efforts were aimed at understanding the patterns that govern our lives. If most people are told: "do it this way", they do it and it suits them perfectly, then it never suited me, and I always asked: "Why exactly this way, and not differently?" If no explanation was given to me, I looked for it myself. That is, for me there are no authorities, except for the Truth, which I am looking for in all ways available to me. And this process, as you know, is endless.
At first, my efforts were directed to the field of technology - I tried to understand how technical inventions are created. As a result, I became an inventor, co-author of the book "The Birth of an Invention", received a degree.
Later, I became very interested in psychology, and then mysticism, esotericism, spiritual practices, which created a feeling of unlimited possibilities and unlimited power. For several years I was intensively engaged in the development of superpowers - clairvoyance, the ability to read information from photographs, aura vision, astral travel. In principle, every person has innate superpowers, you just need to develop them, but this takes many years. Later I realized that in our real life no use for these hidden talents. Technique has completely replaced almost all superpowers, and they have faded away from people as unnecessary. In our world, superpowers can be used either in healing, or you need to show tricks. None of these areas of activity carried me away, and I stopped doing this.
More precisely, I began to look for how a person can use the huge hidden opportunities given to him from birth in the ordinary life that he lives. That is, how to become a magician and wizard, without doing special meditations for many hours, repeating mantras or prayers, without changing your usual rhythm of life.
Everything that I found, I experienced on myself, and then I told other people about it in books, lectures and trainings.
As a result, today I am the head of several enterprises - the Center for Positive Psychology "Reasonable Way" (Moscow) and the American Academy of Success "Reasonable Way" (Boston), editor-in-chief of the magazine "Reasonable World". I am the author of nine books that have been published in over 5 million copies, translated into several languages. I am a candidate of sciences, a full member of one of the Academies, the author of several inventions. I have a wonderful wife, I travel with lectures and trainings all over the world - in general, I created the life I wanted for myself.
You can achieve everything
And no one bothers you to achieve any desired success, except for yourself. Countless people around the world have already applied the suggestions here and their lives have changed in the most miraculous way. In confirmation, I quote extracts from letters received from my readers.
For several years now I have been reading and trying to apply the literature on psychology. But your book "How to be ..." shocked me with its stateliness, accuracy and informativeness. It will replace dozens of volumes of other manuals. (Leonid Rothstein, Jerusalem)