Why do some people get everything and others nothing? Are some lucky and others not?

You have touched upon the question of human destinies, but it is very, very "clunky" and cannot be answered in two or three words. Yes, and at five, six, do not answer, and at seven or eight. And all because the components of success include a lot of things. Yes, and success is different from success, sometimes there is such success that it is better to walk in failure than in such success.
Mostly, the fates differ in that everyone has their own innate potential, that is, the potential of resources that a person inherited at the start (country, finances, abilities and talents, health, living conditions, upbringing, everything that can be described as an investment). But there is also what he acquires with these investments - the acquired potential, then how he keeps it and how he develops it. Moreover, it should be noted that if a lot has been invested in a person, and he just developed it a little, then in fact this is not his success, but the success of his predecessors, to which he simply greased up. If a person at the start received little, but developed this little, then he is more successful than the one who seems to have great success, but who is not his. Success is the realization of what is, albeit small, but realization. I believe that, for example, a person who was born in difficult conditions and lived like a Human has more success than just born in chocolate and who rolls through life in chocolate.

Now another plane of the question - what is success not from a temporary point of view, but from the point of view of eternity. There is spiritual success and there is material success. Take for example Christ - was born in a barn, lived in a poor family, went to the ministry, was rejected and crucified - success or defeat?

Now another case, which is full in the world - was born in a family of moneybags, under power, who made wealth on the blood and suffering of others, developed it and lived his life milking more than one cow, and during his life did not differ in either mental or moral abilities - success?

Of course, I simplified the situation, brought it to two extreme points, so to speak, in order to illustrate the fact that Everything is very unsteady in the world and depends on which side to look at the subject from..
"What is an official person or an unofficial one? It all depends on the point of view from which one looks at the subject, all this, Nikanor Ivanovich, is conditional and unsteady. Today I am an unofficial person, and tomorrow, you see, an official one! But it happens the other way around, Nikanor Ivanovich. And how it happens!" (WITH)

Why change Putin, if the average person lives quite well anyway? And if you want more, you can leave the country, right?

The cashier suggests to the lady standing in front: “Take a lottery ticket. Only five rubles. Good luck!” The woman shook her head, "No luck, I'm not lucky." I witnessed this scene in one of the post offices in Minsk. Whether the matter is a Croat, which all the media have recently trumpeted. He survived seven major disasters and did not receive a single injury, and in addition he also won an impressive amount of money in the lottery. Moreover, in all 74 years of his life, he did not buy a single lottery ticket.

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We also have enough people who became famous because of their bad luck. For example, before the New Year in Brest, a man with a stolen handbag was caught by the traffic police when he crossed the road on a red one. And the old road militiamen detained a serial thief who had forgotten his false teeth at the crime scene.

A classmate who was an inveterate loser at school, became a successful businessman? Did an ugly and mediocre classmate successfully marry an American? Did a work colleague inherit an apartment? And at this time, problems are pouring on you like from a cornucopia. Here, even in the head of the most non-superstitious person, no, no, yes, thoughts of his own bad luck will creep in. That's why he will take up the button when the black cat crosses the road.

Although luck is considered a capricious lady, not subject to logic and laws, some still try to lure her to themselves with the help of all kinds of amulets and spells. I remember my grandmother taught: put the broom up with the broom, take out the garbage only in the morning, don’t sweep the crumbs off the table with your hand, don’t interfere with the salad with a knife, don’t borrow or give money in the evening, get up on your left foot in the morning ... If you can keep all these signs in your head, then you are already lucky - with a good memory.

I never really believed in luck. However, from time to time I notice that someone is lucky in life, and someone is not. But it's more about the situation here. For someone and found a hundred rubles - good luck. And there are also such “losers” who have resigned themselves to the role of a victim of fate and perceive any minor trouble as proof of their own bad luck. I'm sure there are people like you around you too. So I have one friend who starts every conversation with the phrase “Everything is bad ...”, “Imagine what a nightmare”, “I'm not lucky again” or “Well, why do I need all this!”.

Slipped on the ice, sprained his leg. All no luck! Well, what are you going to do here? he sighed during our last meeting. The fact that this day was the peak of icy injuries across the country did not matter to him at all.

Lately, this friend has gotten into the habit of telling me, "You're in luck!" And he says it with a certain reproach and resentment. And every time I mentally add: "... like a drowned man." I don’t know how it is with luck in lotteries, but I can say for sure that behind most success in school or work is hard work. The more people work, the more lucky they are.

“Why is everyone lucky, but never me?” - I asked myself when once again I had to work on a day off. Then I saw how thick smoke was pouring from the window of the five-story building opposite, and I consoled myself: they say, my apartment didn’t burn down, the brick didn’t fall on my head, the poisonous snake didn’t sting, KamAZ didn’t run over me with a trailer - so I can safely call myself lucky.

While some blame themselves for their failures, others blame everyone and everything around: from neighbors to solar flares. Although we are powerless against outbreaks, we can change something in ourselves in order to grab Lady Fortune by the tail. You just need to stop thinking about luck and bad luck altogether. I repeat, luck is a capricious lady. And remember that the classic said: "The less we love a woman, the more she likes us." And Alexander Sergeevich knew what he was talking about.

Why are some people luckier than others? And what if life is like an island of bad luck? Psychologist Richard Weissman began researching the phenomenon of luck about ten years ago. He set himself an ambitious goal - to determine whether the opportunity to be at the right time in the right place makes a person happier. "After a lot of experiments, I finally understood why some people are more successful than others and how to lure luck to yourself," the researcher says.

He began by placing ads in the largest newspapers for people who consider themselves lucky or, conversely, unlucky in life. The scientist invited them to participate in the experiment.

In total, over the years he has worked with more than four hundred people. His youngest "client" was an 18-year-old student, the oldest was an 84-year-old retired accountant. The audience came across varied, but Weissman still classified the most characteristic cases.

He cites 42-year-old Jessica, a medical examiner, as an example of a lucky person. “I have a job that I have always dreamed of, two wonderful children and a great husband, who I love very much. When I remember my life, I understand that luck smiled at me almost every day,” says the woman.

Her opposite is a 34-year-old carer named Caroline who constantly fails. In just one week, she managed to injure her ankle when she hit a pothole in the pavement, then hit her back while falling down the stairs, and crashed her car into a tree during a driving lesson. No matter how much she fell in love, not a single chosen one reciprocated her. “I get into trouble all the time,” Caroline laments.

Weissman's research has shown that although people almost never realize the specific reasons for their bad luck, their thoughts and actions lead to a series of further failures that grows like a snowball. The trouble with such sufferers is that the experience of one failure knocks them out of the saddle for a while, and during this time they bring on themselves new problems.

To prove this, Weissman gave volunteers a newspaper and asked them to leaf through it and say how many photographs were printed on its pages. The losers spent an average of two minutes doing this, while the lucky ones spent a few seconds. The fact is that already on the second page it was written in large letters: "Stop counting. There are 43 photographs in this newspaper."

This message was conspicuous, but the losers missed it, and the lucky ones immediately paid attention. Somewhere in the middle of the newspaper, Weissman posted this as a joke: "Stop counting. Tell the psychologist that you saw this ad and they will give you 250 pounds." The losers missed it too because they were too busy counting the photos.

Special tests to identify personality traits have shown that people who are haunted by failure are much more tense and restless than happy and successful people. This restlessness constantly distracts and deprives them of the ability to notice those things that others easily see.

Weissman asked subjects to show a suddenly flashing colored dot on a computer screen for a monetary reward. The participants of the experiment focused on the monitor, and every third of them missed this point, although it was bright and large. The more closely they peered at the screen, the more worried about the result, the worse everything turned out.

The problem with losers, according to Weissman, is that they simply do not notice the happy chances that fate sends them. Unlucky people are too focused on finding the right solution to their problems, and as a result, they make new problems.

If they get hung up on choosing the perfect partner, they miss out on a lot of opportunities to make good friends. They go through the newspapers, choosing their jobs by advertising, and completely ignore other ways to find vacancies. Lucky people are more relaxed, so they see reality in a different light and can take advantage of a great opportunity that they didn’t even think they would find in the first place.

Weissman believes that luck consists of four components - the ability to trust your intuition, an optimistic attitude towards life, the ability to look at things from different angles, and an internal balance that allows you to carefully and calmly look around.

To understand whether it is possible to make fortune turn to face oneself, the psychologist opened a kind of "school of luck". A group of volunteers participated in trainings for a whole month, the main purpose of which was to form positive thinking in them. "I wanted to teach them how to feel lucky and see if that would help them get lucky," Wiseman explains.

Each of us is depressed from time to time. At work, unfinished business has long accumulated, which you don’t even want to look at. The situation outside the window is not encouraging, and even another quarrel with a loved one. And every time I want to ask: "Why are you unlucky in life, what is all this for?" For some people, breakdowns and depression last for several days, while for others it is a permanent state. How to get out of this and what to do if you are catastrophically unlucky in life?

Attitude towards yourself

Have you ever noticed that some people are always beautiful, collected, everything is in order and success accompanies them everywhere, while troubles fall on others like from a cornucopia? Why is a person unlucky in life, while others get everything they want from it, and even in the most unexpected way? Look closely at how you live in your world and where you fit in it. Do you often feel fear of failure, scold yourself for mistakes made in the past? In your eyes, you become small, unable to overcome difficulties. As a result, any failure can throw you off balance. Love yourself and everything will be alright! There are no people with an impeccable past. You can start a new life and become whoever you want to be. Self-confidence will help you look at trouble with your head held high.

Magical ways to get what you want

What to do if you are unlucky in life? Look for innovative ways to solve problems. Change your thinking, learn new things. Fear arises from a lack of information and a limited number of ways to solve a problem. There are several mystical tools that help in solving life's difficulties:

1. Visualizations.
2. Treasure map.
3. Talismans and amulets.
4. Mantras.
5. Technique "glass of water".
6. Manifestation of intentions.
7. Rituals and ceremonies.
8. cleaning methods.
9. Personal remarks.
10. Other techniques and methods.

Luck

Luck and luck - is it a chain of accidents or a mystical pattern? Surely successful people have some special secret, thanks to which fortune favors them? How to attract luck yourself? There is a very simple but effective way that all rich people use. The magical secret lies in the focus of attention and perception of life in general. Remember at least 10 situations when you were extremely lucky, write them down in detail on a piece of paper, remember what feelings you experienced at that moment, and live them again. Rest assured you are the lucky one. And it was you who presented a unique case. Indeed, in such a situation, many remain in the same place, content with little luck. You are the same happy person who wanted to change his life. So, the opportunity will definitely present itself. Most importantly, don't expect immediate results. Learn to enjoy the simplest things in life that you often don't notice, like tasting tea or coffee in a mug, enjoying breakfast, trying to change your attitude towards work.

Attitude to the present moment

One of the authors, Eckhart Tolle, in his book "The Power of Now" interprets the obstacles received in life as follows: life treats you the way you treat it at the present time. If you see obstacles everywhere, it will become one continuous barrier. If you are looking for the answer to the question of how to return good luck, try taking care of your world. Clean your apartment with love, get a pet, help a friend with the kids, find ways to express gratitude for life. Then she will turn to you with her best side.

Why is there no money?

Each person wondered about the material order. Why are you unlucky in life, how does it happen that you have to work from morning to night, and money only becomes less. This is because many of us grew up with negative beliefs about money. Here are some of them:

1. Money is earned only by hard physical labor when working from morning to evening. If a person lives differently, he is simply doomed to a hungry life.
2. You can't make money doing what you love. This belief is familiar to many who wanted to connect their lives with the creative profession of an actor, musician or artist. After all, all the places have already been taken, everything has been bought, and it is impossible to break through without connections.
3. Your family has worked very hard all your life, and no one has seen big money, which means that this is not available to you either.
4. All rich people are bad, arrogant and arrogant.
5. Those who earned their money must have acquired it in some illegal way, for example, they stole it or got into some kind of financial fraud.
6. Only lucky people can find money on the street, and you are not one of them, friends regret all day and ask why such a good person is unlucky in life.

Who will help break out of this circle and make the black streak end? You yourself. And no one else. The personality itself creates its own world, no matter how much one would like to believe in damage, love spells, slander and other mystical reason why one is unlucky in personal life, love and money. Your negative beliefs, formed over the years, have more impact than you might think. This is not so easy to believe. How often do you buy yourself expensive things? Is it easy for you to spend money or do you buy things with the fear that there will be no more money, and are preparing to live the rest of the month in maximum savings mode? The Cinderella complex - endless procrastination for a rainy day, talk about how bad our government is, that prices are constantly rising, and salaries are not enough, a negative attitude towards rich people - all this programs the subconscious for poverty and poverty. Endless postponing, saving, because “there will be no later” and “this is the last”, not only blocks the energy of money coming to you, but also deprives you of the pleasure of acquiring. Who needs a big house if the kids didn’t see the holidays for it, and you couldn’t buy a decent pair of shoes yourself?

love magic

That's where the favorite topic for various kinds of soothsayers and magicians. Hundreds of "specialists" are ready to answer the question "why you are unlucky in your personal life and what to do about it." The Internet is replete with all sorts of prisushki, love spells and conspiracies. It is enough to have a photo of the person you need to get, buy everything you need for the ritual and read the right words. And here is a miracle in your pocket. Not so simple. Various kinds of magical actions will not give the desired result. You can certainly attract the right partner into your life. And for a while, the relationship will be like a fairy tale. But a loved one will behave this way only because you yourself made him, and not for real. Over time, he will become angrier, jealous and blackmailing. By tethering someone at an energy level, you are disrupting the natural course of things. A loved one cannot receive energy from the world, because he is attached, and begins to receive it only from the one who doomed him to love imprisonment. Aggression, which will increase over time, arises in response to the fact that you have deprived a person of their own will.

A way to attract love without love spells

How to attract a soul mate into your life if a person is catastrophically unlucky in love? Many people mistakenly believe that with the acquisition of a guy or a beautiful girl, they will find the very meaning of life that they have been looking for for so long. When this someone is, at first everything goes just fine, but then everything disappears somewhere, is lost - and the relationship deteriorates. Some immediately begin to look for the cause outside: rivals, envy, love spells and much more. Of course, they are discovered, some are abandoned, others are found, and everything repeats in a circle. Faces change, but problems remain. To get something from the universe, you need to give something. This is not about the destructive belief that you have to pay for everything. The universe is abundant, and without your "fee" it has plenty of everything. The point is that if you want love, start feeling it right now, then you will tune in to the right frequency of reality and a new feeling will be able to enter your life. Or maybe a relationship with a hopeless spouse will improve.

Aromatherapy for well-being

What to do if you are unlucky in life? Of course, burn incense! By choosing the right fragrance, you can set your energy space to abundance. A few fragrances for good luck and luck to visit your home:

Gratitude

All successful people do not stop saying one of the shortest prayers and, perhaps, the most effective: "Thank you." The secret to attracting luck into your life lies in a contented mindset. Positive and contented thinking are not the same thing. The latter includes enjoying and feeling grateful for what has already entered into life. Focusing on success brings more success because the law of attraction comes into play.

Hooponopono

Isn't it a confusing word? It looks, frankly, like some kind of magic spell from an ancient sacred book. To some extent, this definition is correct. With the help of this method, one doctor was able to cure many people from the disease, without even contacting them personally. How to return luck with it? The ho'oponopono method is based on the fact that each person is one with the universe and other people. That is, everything that you can observe, hear, everything that happens around, one way or another is related to your personality. Concentrate on the problem you want to solve and repeat the following 4 phrases:

1. "I'm sorry".
2. "I'm sorry".
3. "I love you".
4. "Thank you".

In this case, one should not turn to the person who created the unpleasant situation, but to the Universe or God, call it what you like. The decoding of the phrases looks like this: "I'm sorry that I created such a world. Forgive me. I did not know where this would lead, I did not know that I was creating these circumstances, I love you and thank you for allowing me to correct the situation and create a happy life. "

good luck at work

Many people try hard at their workplace, but cannot achieve great heights, or even dream of going home as soon as possible at the very beginning of the working day. Such a relationship with work takes away the joys of life and hurts the self-esteem of the employee. Cases accumulate in a snowball, because of this there is constant stress and unwillingness to work. Of course, there are periods of stagnation even in the best workplace. But in this case we are talking about constant emotional discomfort. The best psychologists and authors of books about the work of the subconscious, such as, for example, Vadim Zeland, explain that money is just energy and comes in abundance to those who are doing what they love. Look closely at your occupation. Is this what you were aiming for? If you find it difficult to answer, you can reformulate the question differently: would you be doing your job if you didn’t have to earn money? If the answer is no, you should think about changing activities.

What not to have in the house

A few things that you cannot have in the house so that prosperity and love do not leave it:

1. Single mugs and plates. Get a couple. Everything must be a multiple of two.
2. Chipped cups. Glued and broken things are programmed for poverty.
3. This also includes torn things and tights. Don't even wear it at home. Love yourself, you deserve only the best, even if no one sees you.
4. Dried flowers. Positive energy flows through them.

change

If you are unlucky and want to be happier than you are today, then now is the time. Don't expect anything or anyone. Start playing sports, learning languages, dancing and swimming. How would you behave if the perfect person appeared in your life? Maybe some of the above would become a pleasant habit. So, this person is you. Become interesting for yourself, more beautiful and attractive in your eyes, and people around you will notice it. Throw old trash out of the house, do a general cleaning, get to know your neighbors - and changes will not be long in coming. In order for something new to enter, you first need to make room for the old.

How to save your luck

If you are hoping for success in a very important matter, do not tell anyone about it. Do not expose your achievements to the public. Let the photo where you are happy together with your loved one be seen only by the two of you, without prying eyes. So in your relationship there will be no dirt and strangers.

We hope that this article will help you find happiness, and luck and good luck will become constant companions on your way in any field. Smile at troubles, they will decide that you are crazy and will bypass you.

Sunday, 06 May 2012

Psychologists believe that luck is not a favorable set of circumstances, but our willingness to take advantage of them.

Everyone watched this: a classmate, an inveterate loser, to the surprise of everyone after school, flew up the career ladder, an ugly and mediocre girlfriend suddenly jumped out to marry a fabulous “prince”, one work colleague received appointments, raises, bonuses, and then an inheritance fell on him, and the second, no matter what he did, immediately flew into the money ... Why does such injustice happen?

Psychologists have surveyed over a thousand successful people around the world to find out what made them successful. And brought out "Luck Formula"

Its general mathematical expression looks like this: "Y=X+W+S".

• U is luck.
• X - personality characteristics, including psychological "flexibility", the ability to get along with people, life position.
• Z - health, money savings, having friends.
• C - self-respect and a sense of humor.

Each parameter, in turn, consists of many components that scientists evaluate in points, making complex calculations. But even without such details, it is clear that it works for luck.

Moreover, it turned out that luck is also the ability to go beyond the proposed situations, a kind of expansion of consciousness. Professor of Psychology at the University of Hertfordshire (UK), author of The Luck Factor Richard Weissman, who took as a basis the principles of probability theory and quantum mechanics, conducted an amazing experience.

He published an advertisement in several newspapers in which he invited people who consider themselves extremely lucky or, conversely, unlucky, to take part in the experiment. The scientist gave each respondent a very thick newspaper and asked them to accurately count the number of photographs in it. The catch was that one of the pages was fake. There, among other advertisements, scientists posted their following content: "Tell the experimenter that you saw THIS, and you will receive a reward of 250 pounds sterling."

The ad was in large type and took up half a page. The question is, who noticed it? Without exception, all the “lucky ones” saw and received prizes. And none of those who declared their bad luck before the tests noticed the announcement! They were all busy following instructions: a scrupulous counting of photographs. And they didn't even pay attention to the text. The experience of the cunning Weissman showed: luck is not a favorable set of circumstances, but our willingness to take advantage of them.

- The reasons for the bad luck of the losers lie in themselves, says the professor. - As a rule, such people are tense, neurotic, clamped, insecure and insecure. And this constant inner restlessness of theirs blocks the ability to notice something new and unexpected, to listen to their intuition and notice "random opportunities" that are equally encountered on the path of all people.

OPINION OF THE SPECIALIST

Make friends with fun and resourceful

Researcher of the Medical and Psychological Center Valentin BAYRATOV:

If you want to succeed, find a group of successful people. The energy of success will constantly be absorbed into you. Prosperous people come up with great ideas, make good decisions, make big plans, make great deals. By absorbing this sparkling energy, you yourself will turn your vector of movement towards success.

ADVIСE

Three steps to happiness

Everyone who dreams of a happy life must develop the consciousness of a successful person, - instructs the well-known trainer in the field of personal growth, psychologist John Kehoe. - Here are three attitudes that distinguish the thinking of the lucky and the loser.

Position 1. This world is full of riches.

What does a loser think?

“There are few good jobs, and all of them are already filled by various crooks or thieves.” He believes that each person competes with the rest in the struggle to achieve the same goals and that there are only competitors and too few opportunities. He believes that all the money has already been received by someone, all the benefits are shared, and whines that he always lacks everything.

What does the lucky one think

He believes that the riches of life are inexhaustible and there is everything around to satisfy the interests of everyone. There will definitely be free highly paid places, beautiful brides and generous grooms, good friends, you just need to open your eyes wider to see good luck.

Position 2. Man is born for joy

What does a loser think?

He is sure that life is initially difficult, full of problems, you have to work long and hard, but this work will not be appreciated. He always expects problems, disappointments and always finds them.

What does the lucky one think

He looks at life as an adventure. Expects encouragement, joy and always finds it. And if difficulties suddenly appear, then he considers them as a challenge, finds solutions, and also enjoys this.

Position 3. Fate gives an unlimited number of possibilities.

What does a loser think?

He is sure that he was initially deprived of something - education, acumen, starting financial opportunities, beauty - and this can no longer be compensated for by anything. He finds a bunch of external reasons why he can't succeed. Sometimes such people even refuse obviously profitable offers, arguing that “everything cannot be so good, there is some kind of catch.” Subconsciously, they are simply afraid to destroy their picture of the injustice of the world.

What does the lucky one think

He believes that every day provides a huge number of opportunities everywhere. You just have to learn to see them. Here is just one example: every year in any European country, including Russia, more than half a million new firms open. And each of them needs a whole staff of employees - from a cleaner to a financial director. Knock on every door and it will be opened to you.

Money and fame stick to lucky Galkin

Maxim first hit the TV screen thanks to a brilliant parody of the then leading TV game

"Who want to be a millionaire?" Dmitry Dibrov.

Maxim Galkin is considered by many to be lucky, and not without reason. Seven years ago, he first hit the TV screen thanks to a brilliant parody of the then game show host Who Wants to Be a Millionaire? Dmitry Dibrov. And what - soon, hitherto unknown to anyone, Maxim himself became the host of this television game. He was included in his program by Mikhail Zadornov, where Gennady Khazanov noticed him and helped arrange the first solo album. Then Philip Kirkorov drew attention to him and, to his misfortune, introduced him to Alla Pugacheva ... And he immediately reminded the Primadonna of her classmate and first love, Vladimir Stern.

Is this not luck? True, Galkin himself says: “I never had to work with my elbows, knock on closed doors in order to succeed. The main thing is to work hard and be able not to miss your chance.” By the way, Galkin is also lucky in gambling. This winter, Maxim first won a million rubles in one of the casinos in Las Vegas, and in Moscow at the Europa casino he won a brand new Rolls-Royce for a million euros in roulette, which he immediately presented to Alla Pugacheva ...

Maria REMIZOVA.

Evil fate pursues the Englishman John...

The most unlucky person in the UK can get into the Guinness Book of Records - 54-year-old John Lean from Stainforth has 20 accidents. As a child, he fell out of a stroller, fell off a horse, and was hit by a car. As a teenager, he fell from a tree and broke his arm. The bus on which he was returning home from the hospital had an accident, and he broke the same arm, but in a different place. In adulthood, he was struck by lightning twice, he fell under a collapse of stones in a mine, survived three car accidents, miraculously did not drown. The last incident - a fall into an open sewer - put Lin out of action for almost a whole year.

I can’t explain what is happening to me in any way - it seems that no one cursed, - says John. - I'm just glad to be alive every time. And my friends and wife Susan have learned to have a sense of humor about it. The most dangerous day for me is Friday the 13th, which has had several misfortunes.

... and finished off the Ulyanovsk

In Ulyanovsk, 36-year-old Alexander Morozov slipped on icy steps, fell and broke his leg. It happened exactly at 13:13. He was taken to the hospital by ambulance, where he was placed in ward No. 13. After 13 (!) days, Alexander was operated on. And after the operation, he suddenly died ...

JOKE ON THE TOPIC

Adult son talking to his father:
- Dad, you know
my friend Klava?
- Yes.
- I proposed to her to marry me. But she refused.
- Yes, son, it's good. But please don't think that you will always be so lucky!

TEST

Are you lucky?

1. In the store in which line do you stand most often:

a) which seems shorter - 10
b) where the sluggish cashier collected at her cash desk of a semi-department store - 5
c) where they make noise and joke - 20
d) where the cashier goes for a break when it's your turn - 0

2. When crossing the street, you see a turning car out of the corner of your eye. Your actions:

a) you go confidently further, not paying attention to the driver's signals, - 10
b) you stop and let the car pass - 0
c) you make it clear to the driver with gestures that you are right, and confidently cross the street - 20
d) you stop, then try to run across, stop again - 0

3. Is there a wastebasket nearby? Wonderful. Take a crumpled piece of paper and try to hit it from some distance. Result:

a) hit the first time - 20
b) "Ah, hell!" Try again - 20
c) abandon the idea - 0
d) stop trying after a while - 5

4. Someone tells you that your outfit is simply unthinkable. You answer:

a) nothing - 5
b) "Do you really think so?" - 5
c) “I bet everyone will walk like this tomorrow?” - 20
d) "You make me sad" - 5

5. You are in the company of acquaintances and strangers. There is an informal conversation going on. Someone estimates your age to be 10 years older. What is your reaction?

a) "Thank you for the compliment" - 0
b) pretend not to hear - 10
c) “I hope you don’t kiss the way you tell your age?” - 10
d) “But I look good for my age, don’t I?” - 20

6. You assume that your work is underpaid. What are you doing?

a) declare it without delay - 10
b) I sigh to myself - 5
c) I tell my boss about it - 20
d) quit - 0

7. You are eating a sandwich. Part of it falls on the table. Which side?

a) oil down - 0
b) butter up - 20
c) does not fall at all, I have time to eat all - 10
d) it does not concern anyone - 5

8. The Oscar ceremony. Prize Winners. What type of speakers do you like?

a) "I am grateful to my parents, my director, my manager for their participation, thanks to which I am standing here" - 0
b) “Already at the age of five, I knew that someday I would get it” - 0
c) “Oh my God, I don’t know what to say at all ... I’m so ... oh! .. It’s so, oh, I don’t even know ... I love you all ...” - 5
d) “I will be proud of it for the rest of my life, my wife will clean it, and my dog ​​will confuse it with a bone for playing” - 20

9. What is your first thought when you hear the word "sport"?

a) death, accident - 0
b) awards, medals - 20
c) health - 10
d) grueling workouts - 5

10. What films do you like the most?

a) with a happy ending - 10
b) those that make you think - 5
c) with a large number of characters and all sorts of adventures - 0
d) funny life stories - 20

Results

More than 190 points: congratulations: you are a real lucky one! But your future depends on how well you handle the problems of the present. Tip: do not be overly self-confident, you must always be on the alert, while remaining yourself.

From 100 to 185 points: you get lucky quite often. You win thanks to your honesty and independence, without waiting for the favors of fortune. But you have a lot of envious people. Advice: continue to act as honestly, but act more dexterously and diplomatically.

From 45 to 100 points: you are jealous. If it goes on like this, it is not surprising that you will eventually come to the conclusion that everyone who is more fortunate than you is impudent crooks. Tip: believe in yourself and put in the effort to achieve your goal.

Less than 45 points: you are clearly unlucky. And the reason is that you don't care what people think or say about you. Tip: Invite guests more often to surprise them with something tasty, tell them about your good news and ask about the successful ventures of your friends. Only in these moments you will feel inner comfort, cheerfulness and desire to become successful.

Svetlana KUZINA

Professor of the University of Hertfordshire (Great Britain) Richard Wiseman conducted an interesting study.

He set himself the task of finding out what is the difference between the "lucky ones" and the "losers". During the experiments, having studied the psychological characteristics of both, Weissman deduced a “luck formula”, using which everyone can change their life ...

In search of a scientific explanation for why some people are always "lucky" and others are always "losers", I conducted an experiment. Published an advertisement in the local press inviting volunteers who considered themselves either losers or "lucky" to take part in the study. About 400 people responded to the call. Among them were men and women - aged 18 to 84 years.

For ten years, I interviewed my volunteers, asking them to write diaries, fill out questionnaires, and take IQ tests (an intelligence quotient test). And I came to the conclusion that there is a certain “luck formula”, which is based on four components:

• attention to everything that happens around and the ability to use "accidents";
• developed intuition;
• focus on positive thoughts;
• the ability to enjoy life (which always changes life for the better).

"Lucky" people do not miss the happy "accidents". The unlucky ones just don't notice them.

This statement is based on the results of the experiments. For example, I distributed copies of a newspaper to the subjects and asked them to count the number of photographs placed in them.

The "lucky ones" completed the task in a matter of seconds, while the losers took much longer.

Why did it happen?

This discrepancy in time costs has the simplest explanation. On the second page of that very issue of the newspaper, I placed a message printed in large letters: “Don't work! There are 43 photographs in this issue. "Lucky" people instantly discovered it, because they look at the world with wide eyes and are always ready for the unexpected. The “unlucky ones”, taking the task literally and concentrating on the calculations, did not pay any attention to it. For individuals of this psychological type - as if in "blinders", immersed in their worries, do not see anything around and do not perceive surprises.

In the process of research, I noticed that many of my "lucky" participants try to diversify their lives, acquiring new and new experiences - they strive to go where they have never been before, meet new people, expand their circle of interests, etc.

How does this technique work?

Imagine that behind your house is a large apple orchard. And every day you need to collect a basket of apples. At first, this will not be a problem: there are many apples on each tree. But gradually finding apples will become more and more difficult, because you have already harvested some of the trees. But if you stop circling around the house and go to the remote corners of the garden, where you have not yet looked, the chances of picking up the right number of apples will increase significantly.

Same with luck. If you add variety to your life, your chances of luck increase.

A very important component of the formula of luck is the correct attitude to various situations, to adversity and difficulties.

Let's say you compete for your country in the Olympics. You are in good shape, performed well and received a bronze medal. And now the question is: will you feel happy having achieved such a result?

Some in such cases - lament and feel dissatisfied, thinking that it would be possible to "push" more and get "silver". Others rejoice with all their hearts, imagining that it would be possible not to be among the winners at all if the results were a little worse.

Psychologists know such a feature of the human psyche - when an individual, instead of concentrating on what actually happened, imagines how events could develop for the worse.

"Lucky" people usually use this property of the psyche to soften the blow and even in the most unpleasant situations to feel that this time they are accompanied by "luck".

In turn, "losers" under the same circumstances are completely immersed in the feeling of failure.

Let me give you another similar example.

I suggested to my wards that they consider the following situation: a robber bursts into the bank where you came and wounds you in the arm. And asked how they would react to it.

So, the “losers” said that it was obvious bad luck when you were the one who suffered from all the clients.

"Lucky" people, on the contrary, regarded the wound in the hand as luck - after all, the shooter could have inflicted a much more serious wound.

This attitude to reality helps to cope with any setbacks and increases the chances that a person will continue to feel completely happy.

After analyzing the results of the first stage of the study, I developed a series of experiments that were supposed to demonstrate how a person’s way of thinking and behavior can improve his life. In essence, this is a monthly program.

First, I interviewed each subject, and they filled out questionnaires, where they determined the degree of their luck and satisfaction with life according to the six most important life parameters.

Then I explained the "formula" of luck and the technique by which the "losers" had to build their lives according to the rules of the "lucky ones". For example, I told them how to develop attention to everything that is happening around and learn not to miss unexpected coincidences; how to change the habitual routine of life and expand the circle of communication. He urged them to listen to their own intuition. Together with them, I modeled their positive thoughts in cases where trouble happened.

Some did a series of exercises, and a month later the "unlucky" were to return to me.

The results were amazing. A month later, 80 percent of the “losers” tested said that they no longer felt “doomed,” that “much more successes appeared in their lives.” One of the participants in the experiment said that after she changed her attitude to reality, believing in her "lucky star", failure does not haunt her. And she told a very instructive story.

Once, in a shop window, she saw a dress that she really liked, but she did not dare to buy it. Regretting that she had not done so, the woman returned to that store, but the dress had already been sold.

“Before, I would have been very upset,” she said. - And I would have worried for a long time because of my own indecision. Now I reacted to “failure” in a different way: I went shopping and found an outfit for myself, even better and cheaper than before ...

It would seem - a trifle. But our daily life consists of insignificant events. Victories over oneself of this kind help to learn to feel more confident, not to succumb to pessimism, and then the tasks that reality sets before us are easier to solve.

Our research clearly demonstrates that “happiness”, “luck”, “luck” are sensations available to every person. You just need to want it and make an effort to change your life.

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Translation from English

Richard Weissman