The only way to express your dissatisfaction, inconvenience or pain for baby is to cry. In most cases, this is the baby's reaction to some kind of inconvenience. But for a mother, crying her child is a kind of test. You can’t ask a baby, or rather, you can ask, but he won’t be able to answer whether something bothers him, scares him, or just had a bad dream. Most often, the child cries, especially after daytime sleep, for quite natural reasons.
For the first time, she cried because of a real problem. This caused the immediate arrival of the mother. Every time she cried day and night, she was "rewarded" with affection, milk, sadness, and so on. why shouldn't she scream again and again? Based on the assumption that what can be taught can be explored, proponents of this theory explain how to remove this conditioned reflex, or more specifically, how to properly condemn a child not to cry anymore. When the baby is up and down, you release the music and act. When he starts crying, you put him to bed and turn off the music.
To date baby crying after sleep, the phenomenon is widespread, especially after daytime sleep. Many physicians consider this phenomenon to be a variant of the norm, if neurovegetative disorders or other pathologies are not detected.
The main causes of baby crying associated with the intestines
- hunger;
- flatulence, accompanied by pain.
The main reason for baby crying is hunger. If he is full, then he will sleep long and hard. But if the child is breastfed and the mother's milk is not fat enough and nutritious, the baby will wake up and get nervous much more often than is provided for by age norms. Such crying is difficult to confuse with its other type. The baby whimpers, then starts screaming to signal an increasing need for food, while shaking his head and smacking his lips, making it clear that you need to give a breast or a bottle. In this case, either the mother needs to reconsider her diet, or, if the baby is artificial, change the mixture or refer to the instructions for preparing it again.
The child learns that if she wants to enjoy her parents and music, she must not cry. Music is rewarded, and lying on duty is the punishment that makes a child stop crying. While this method shows results, it won't fix us yet to use it. Plib "does not reunite", plays allow communication; And communication can be learned provided that there is more communication. This advice is not paradoxical and opposes the former, it would seem, only. As we have already said, starting from the age of two months, it is better to give him the opportunity to experience disappointment and disappointment, if nothing serious comes to us.
A baby, especially in the first 3 months of life, may cry from pain in the tummy. Intestinal colic the trouble of any little one. The immature intestines of children only adapt to the digestion of food, even such as mother's milk, gases accumulating in the intestines exert mechanical pressure, causing pain. The child may whimper in a dream, wake up crying, and will scream excitedly, trying to change the position of the body. In this case, carminatives help, which, on the recommendation of a pediatrician, should be given during feeding.
It's not good for every price to keep kids in the creature to overpower it and respond to the slightest response. A certain number of complaints are necessary for the proper development of the child. The only problem is the bravado and, obviously, unreadable cricket. No mother is required to be perfect, but she must not jeopardize the psychological development of her child. The term "good enough mother" has been used by psychologists to describe a mother who is primarily responsive to her child's needs.
This means that she is happy, that she is the mother of the baby, that she nourishes her, embraces tenderness, suppresses her, reacts to the plague of hunger, pain or loneliness, shows patience and understanding. But a "good mother" doesn't just represent seduction, kindness, and kindness. It is also able to provide the child with a certain psychological structure and even a certain optimal amount of disappointment. He does not do something for a child who can do it himself, for example, if he can calm down. This allows children to grow up, even if it means that the child refuses it, and it allows him to be different from what he imagines.
Other physiological causes
- fear;
- the need for a mother;
- wet or dirty diapers;
- pain when urinating.
People, even adults, go from being asleep to being awake in different ways: Some easily and quickly, some slowly and with displeasure. Young children who are slowly "returning to reality" may simply be frightened immediately after sleep if you try to wake them up abruptly. Or something frightens them while they are still half asleep. Therefore, the baby, who seemed to wake up with a smile, may suddenly cry after sleep. Harsh sounds or flashes can negatively affect the emotional state of a young child. This condition is not considered a pathology until 3 summer age.
According to the book of Anna Backus: the child complains - what to do. Sleep is the so-called relaxation phase, when brain activity decreases. This is accompanied by loss of consciousness and decreased sensitivity to external stimuli. Sleep relaxes muscles, reduces body temperature, pulse and blood pressure.
The duration of sleep is individual for each person. Adults are given 7-8 hours. For children, it is considered the standard of 10 hours. Sleep takes up about a third of our lives. Let's take a closer look at each phase of sleep. Sleep is a state between wakefulness and sleep. For sleep, typical physical movements and changes in body positions are typical. At this stage, muscle cramps often appear, which can even wake us up for a while. When falling asleep, cardiac activity decreases or muscle tone decreases.
A baby may cry simply because it needs a mother. This is especially true for the first months of life. He was used to feeling his mother's warmth, hearing her heartbeat. And when there are no familiar sounds, he is not comfortable. If you lie next to your baby when you put him down and then leave, he may cry, demanding your presence. There are different approaches to education. Some experts believe that the baby should be kept in "hedgehog gloves" and you should not sleep with him, others that nervous system little things are more valuable than principles. And if for some reason your child cannot yet be without you, then there is nothing wrong with being with him. This is for each mother to decide.
During sleep, half-lives occur, or the child easily gets rid of the feeling of deception. There is also pseudo-halucination - if a person performs a long activity during the day, he can still follow us. Sleep and complete night sleep are also the most common topic for parents. In the past, we often met with the opinion that a child should sleep alone for a year, but more often than not, children start sleeping through the night in order to sleep from the second to the third year. By this time they had undergone intense mental and physical development and often need help.
Do children dream? Can newborns have nightmares? Even scientists have not yet come to a consensus on this issue. Some believe that it is not, because dreams are a way of processing information, and the newborn brain has nothing to process yet, and imaginative thinking has not yet been developed. Others believe that they are dreaming, since the baby, having got out of the environment of “information hunger” into a new world for him, is surrounded by an abundance of information new to him. It is believed that nightmares begin to visit children after 3 years of age. But, nevertheless, negative emotions in a dream can appear, for example, if a child hears the mother’s angry voice, adult disputes. And this can affect the quality of sleep, in the end, result in crying.
If a baby is breastfeeding and sleeping together in bed with or near their parents, they usually wake up every two to three hours at night. It's their dream, it's such a half a groan, and the women who don't get breastfeeding out of bed in the morning, do not even know how many times they breastfed. For children it is biologically natural and it is only up to the parents when the child's need wants to be fulfilled.
We have also written about the various causes of arousal and prolonged sleep in young children. Are you also asking how to help your baby sleep? The child must calm down - you cannot let the child run for a minute to sleep in bed and sleep. Do an evening ritual when the child is at least an hour old before going to bed. Read a story, have him draw or build blocks, or think of some fun that won't be physically demanding, and the child will make you stop working. For more temperamental children, it can sometimes be difficult, but find it effective. Regularity - yes, young children need a constant regimen. What can come to you, like boredom and dullness, is very important for a child all day long. Create a few rituals before bed that you follow regularly. The child is so easily accustomed to the fact that after bathing a fairy tale, and following the fairy tale, she will become confused and better. Besides, he will calm down in the meantime. The child should be kept in bed at about the same time. Pleasant environment for ringing - Provide your child with a comfortable pouring environment. Eliminate everything that can cause a feeling of fear and insecurity in the child. The room you sleep in should also be well ventilated. If the child is already asleep, leave the door open. Some babies turn to the hip, close their eyes, and fall asleep. Others are overwhelmed and unable to work, they require your presence. If the child cries hysterically, you can notice that something is bothering him. In this case, bury him and kill him. Don't leave him, the child must know that he is beloved. Don't be afraid to use white noise, they are also very helpful for kids or baby swings. For older children, you can sometimes use audiobooks. A child who is constantly on the move must first calm down. . Children's sleep is very different from adult sleep.
If you use reusable diapers. The baby, having pretty much soaked the diaper, will wake up and demand clean linen. He can only do this by crying. This is quite normal, you just need to change his diapers in a timely manner. The child may cry when urinating if he has already begun to wake up and this moment coincided with the urination act. The kid still does not know how to relax in the process and it is unpleasant for him. This is especially true for boys. Firstly, because they strain the penis during the process, and if you use disposable diaper, and put it on very tightly, or it is already filled with urine, the penis may rest against the obstruction and cause displeasure to the baby. Secondly, male infants often have physiological phimosis (narrowing of the foreskin) that makes the act of urination painful. During sleep, boys usually urinate without problems, but if the child begins to wake up, he may cry. It is taught that the baby cries immediately after sleep, of course, this does not happen all the time.
Babies alternate between restful and active sleep. The child moves the eyelids at this stage, there are separate movements of the limbs, he has irregular breathing, voices appear. You can easily wake up at this stage. The phase takes about half of each sleep cycle, that is, about 30 minutes.
The other half is restful sleep. Here the eyelids do not move, breathing is correct, and body movement is minimal. At this stage of sleep, the child usually does not awaken more noise or other distractions. As with adults, a child will either wake up or continue to sleep as they transition from active to restful sleep. Sleep will continue and sleep will decrease. This change is gradual and lasts for several years until school age.
The main pathological causes of crying
- uncomfortable position in a dream;
- the onset of the disease;
- neurovegetative pathologies.
The child may not sleep comfortably, and after sleep something hurts. Crying can also be a sign of an incipient general illness, such as SARS or allergies. If you think that the baby's skin is hotter than usual, take the temperature.
It is the return from sleep to the waking state. The awakening phase is very similar to the sleep phase, but much faster. Sleep disorders include, for example, drowsiness, night terrors, nightmares, or night anxiety. A typical example of sleepwalking is when a child gets out of bed, walks around the room, in the apartment. A good example is the toilet. The nanny often also opens windows, balcony doors, etc. therefore, precautions must be taken for such children. You will probably have to lock the door of your apartment or house, use security locks on the windows.
The crying of a child after sleep may be a sign of a nervous breakdown or autonomic dysfunction. Children with increased intracranial pressure, limited cerebral dysfunction, hypoxic-ischemic encephalopathy, and a number of other pathologies may suffer from insomnia (sleep disturbance) and wake up crying all the time.
After waking up, the child does not remember anything. Sleepers should not be awakened, but should be brought back to bed. Night terrors are short, scary dreams that occur to an infant during the resting phase of sleep. For this reason, he rarely wakes up. After 4 hours of sleep, the child begins to cry, scream, kick, beat. Looking into the void, you probably don't feel it, sweat and a fast heartbeat. This condition usually goes away as quickly as it seems. Like sleepwalking, the child does not remember anything and therefore does not ask for it the next day.
You can cause unpleasant feelings, such as fear and anxiety, about not remembering anything. This condition should disappear before the seventh year of life. If this does not happen, please seek technical assistance. Nightmares are frightening, vivid dreams during the active phase of sleep. Upon awakening, the child clearly remembers the nightmare. They usually occur in children who have experienced some trauma.
If the baby cries constantly after sleep, it is difficult to distract and switch it, sleeps restlessly, does not fall asleep well - this is a reason to see a doctor.
Have you met with such a situation when your baby fell asleep in a good mood, slept calmly and peacefully for several hours, and then, for no apparent reason, woke up crying, screaming and tantrums? At such moments, you experience mixed feelings: bewilderment, rejection and fear. What is happening, what to do, how to help the child in these moments, where to run and with whom to consult? The most terrible thoughts are spinning in your head and every time the baby goes to bed, you wait with horror for the moment of his awakening...
All children sometimes have their fear in the room at night. These unpleasant nocturnal manifestations are caused by daily experiences, the birth of a brother, movement, etc. Small child cannot describe his fears, he is ashamed. Talk to your child and listen carefully, because even if your worries seem banal, they are really worried at the time. Nightmares most often occur between the time of life when the child becomes aware of his feelings. The child wakes up after a bad dream with fear, crying and a sense of danger.
Why does a child wake up crying?
If this happens to a very young child, the explanation for this may be hunger, wet diapers, teething, colic and other similar physical inconveniences that the baby may experience upon awakening due to its infancy. The situations with isolated cases when a child wakes up crying are also understandable: this is quite possible if he was frightened of something when he woke up and did not see his mother next to him, this is real and if he had a bad dream, or he lay down the pen. But what to do if sobbing and tantrums upon awakening become an everyday event, and the child is no longer a baby?
Put him on the bed with the lamp, stay with her until she is calm and calm her down. Children need to know that they can sleep at any time in order to be afraid to restore security, a sense of security. If your child has ugly dreams too often, the problem is likely to be hidden. Here you should consider visiting a psychologist.
Although we have a seemingly unconscious sensation in our sleep, inside our psyche, we are not actually drunk at night. Rather, we should be interested in why such dreams seem to you. One of the first who paid attention to the meaning of a dream in order to understand human soul, was the psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud. He argued that in addition to the explicit content of the dream lies hidden meaning to be decoded. Our dreams are controlled by a mysterious example of our unconscious called “dream censorship”, which is concerned with processing disturbing experiences experienced in the waking state in the least violent way.
In fact, there is nothing wrong with that! Such a seemingly strange phenomenon has quite understandable and logical explanations. The fact is that in a sleeping person, outwardly at rest, a variety of physical actions and mental processes take place inside the body. So, during sleep, our cells divide and grow, and the brain works hard: it processes all the information that it received during the day, puts aside the necessary and discards the unnecessary. In addition, the very process of finding a person in a dream has several phases - this is a nap, REM sleep, deep and shallow sleep. Remember how you felt if you ever had to wake up repeatedly at night and fall asleep only in the morning? Or maybe take a nap during the day? Of course, all people are different and we all go to bed at different times and sleep differently. But in any case, sleep at these moments, especially during the day, is more superficial, not deep, when a person’s consciousness is, as it were, in a constant state of transition from sleep to wakefulness, and upon awakening, a person’s consciousness seems to be confused. Then, waking up, a person feels broken, drowsy, lethargic, his thoughts are confused and foggy. He does not understand where he is, what he is doing and what he feels. In medicine, there is even such a thing as "confusion" or "sleepy intoxication." Such behavior of an adult, along with somnambulism (sleepwalking), nightmares, frequent awakenings during sleep, bruxism (teeth grinding), enuresis, is included in the classification of sleep disorders - parasomnias. However, all this is considered a sleep disorder only in adults!
We are talking about children! If the child wakes up crying - this is NORMAL! The fact is that in children, especially if we are talking about kids 2-4 years old, in which the internal processes of cell growth and information processing are in an enhanced mode, and even a weak psyche that has not taken shape due to its immaturity. A confused mind is considered natural process, which over time, that is, with the growing up of the child, gradually decreases and then disappears completely. Also, pay attention to exactly when the baby wakes up crying. It mostly happens during daytime sleep. And most likely before going to bed, the child was very active and restless. The sleep of a small child is affected by the emotions that he received before going to bed. And if they were not entirely positive or exciting his psyche, the child will wake up alarmed and, probably, crying and hysterical.
What to do if the child wakes up crying?
Follow the child's daily routine so that he always goes to bed and wakes up at the same time.
Provide your child with a pleasant and calm atmosphere, at least an hour and a half before bedtime. No family squabbles, active games or emotionally exciting events.
Remember the ritual of falling asleep - this is when every time before going to bed you perform the same actions familiar to the baby: kissing, reading fairy tales, light massage, taking a bath and the like.
Make sure your child wakes up comfortably. If the child wakes up crying, try to ensure that the baby always falls asleep in a familiar and familiar place. Be there when you wake up.
If the baby starts crying - calm him down, talk in a calm, even and loving voice, show your favorite toys - let him know that everything is fine and everything is the same, he is safe and his mother is next to him.
You can try, following the child, how much he sleeps and when he wakes up approximately, 10 minutes before he wakes up, wake him up on his own, gently stroking his head and saying a couple of affectionate words.
Most importantly, if your little one experiences discomfort when waking up, remember that this is a natural condition that should go away with time. Of course, if with age your baby becomes more and more restless and still wakes up crying, he constantly shudders in his sleep, screams and no persuasion works on him - contact a neurologist. Perhaps the doctor will prescribe you a sedative or prescribe other medications that will help your baby calmly leave the realm of Morpheus and wake up with a smile on his face.